Thoughts on Lab Partners for Paideia playshops
Our Paideia playshops include exercises, mainly done in pairs. Depending on the topic, the nature, number, and intimacy level of these exercises varies.
In general, you'll get a lot more out of the class if you do the exercises with a partner.
Is this a dating opportunity?
We try to keep the energy relaxed and playful, rather than heavy cruisy. Many people arrive with a partner. Some are open to dating, but that's their focus when they're here.
Some people in monogamous relationships attend without their partner, usually due to scheduling issues. They are not open to cruising.
Are the workshops mainly for Tops or Bottoms?
Both.
Clearly any top wants to improve her or his techniques, understanding, and skills.
There are many reasons bottoms attend workshops, including:
- Check out the tops.
- Learn how to know when a top is playing safely.
- Try new techniques in a safe environment.
What about switching roles?
We highly recommend that everyone tries both topping and bottoming in every technique they learn. This improves your appreciation, empathy and communication.
Thoughts on choosing a lab partner
- You'll learn better if you're not cruising your lab partner. If you didn't come with a primary partner, it's less distracting to choose someone you're not looking to date.
- Many people choose lab partners they wouldn't necessarily date. It's not unusual for two het male tops to practice on each other.
- You'll want a degree of mutual trust, so you can relax and learn.
- Ideally, you'd change lab partner with each exercise. In practice, this rarely happens.
Finding a lab partner
- We welcome lab partner posts on EduKink.tribe.net/tribeallposts
- The more you say about yourself and what you're looking for, the better, e.g.:
- level of experience in BDSM, and in this topic;
- what interests you about the topic;
- level of interest/flexibility in topping vs bottoming;
- range of people you'd be comfortable working with;
- honest description of yourself;
- current relationship status;
- You might also want to advertise in other forums, when appropriate to your orientation and geography. Here are some - please read the descriptions before posting:
- http://sfthecitadel.tribe.net
- http://sfbdsm.tribe.net
- http://tribes.tribe.net/newtobdsm
- http://sfkinkydating.tribe.net
- http://sfcitadelmensgroup.tribe.net
- http://tribes.tribe.net/sfwomensplayparties
- http://screwup.tribe.net
- http://ncbdsm.tribe.net
Some people just show up and hook up at the class. To have success with this it helps to:
- Show up early.
- Be outgoing, and talk to lots of people.
- Not be too picky. You're not moving in together, just practicing techniques.
- Be willing to, or interested in, bottoming. There are usually a few more tops than bottoms.
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