Some Regency, Victorian, and Edwardian references,
and Etiquette notes:
Victoriana group on Fetlife
(a href="https://fetlife.com/groups/48947">Victorian Gothic Dining ~ Etiquette and Protocols group on Fetlife
Locked party group on Fetlife
Locked party group on tribe.net
Regency Etiquette - The Mirror of Graces, 1811 by "A Lady of Distinction". Reprint.
Victorian Etiquette - index
Victorian Etiquette - basic rules
Victorian Etiquette - breaches
Upstairs, Downstairs, British historic television series, set 1903-1930 (Edwardian). 68 episodes over 5 seasons.
Downton Abbey, set in 1912-1920+ (Edwardian).
Below Stairs: The Classic Kitchen Maid's Memoir, by Margaret Powell, 1968.
Manor House, a.k.a. The Edwardian Country House. 6 episodes. 21 modern people recreate Manor House life for 3 months.
Secrets of the Manor House Mostly about class politics.
The Short Life and Long Times of Mrs. Beeton by Kathryn Hughes.
The Complete Servant, by Samuel and Sarah Adams, 1825
Dickens Christmas Fair, annual living history event in San Francisco, Thanksgiving to Christmas.
The Foundation to Treat but not Cure Female Hysteria
Courtesans: Money, Sex and Fame in the Nineteenth Century, by Katie Hickman
Sexual Science: The Victorian Construction of Womanhood, by Cynthia Eagle Russett - a critique of sexism in Victorian science and culture
The Sex Radicals: Free Love in High Victorian America, by Hal D Sears
The Worm in the Bud: The World of Victorian Sexuality, by Ronald Pearsall
Love For Sale: a World History of Prostitution, by Nils Johan Ringdal. Especially chapters 19-22
An Ordered Love: Sex Roles and Sexuality in Victorian Utopias -- the Shakers, the Mormons, and the Oneida Community, by Louis J Kern.
The Dark Angel: Aspects of Victorian Sexuality, by Fraser Harrison
The Green Carnation (book)
Homophobia: A History, by Byrne Fone. Part Six: Victorian Secrets
General Victoriana (vanilla)
What Jane Austen Ate and Charles Dickens Knew, by Daniel Pool
The Writer's Guide to Everyday Life in Regency and Victorian England, from 1811-1901, by Kristine Hughes
Eating with the Victorians, edited by C. Anne Wilson
Rudeness and Civility: Manners in Nineteenth-Century Urban America, by John F. Kasson
The Benevolence of Manners: Recapturing the Lost Art of Gracious Victorian Living, (a.k.a. Simle Social Graces), by Linda S. Lichter
Victorian England, 1976
The London "Season"
The Age of Innocence, by Edith Wharton set in 1870s New York (novel and film)
Washington Square, film based on Henry James' 1880 novel, and shows many daily assumptions of well-off late-Victorian American life.
Supersizers, a study of historic eating patterns, including Regency, VVictorian, and Edwardian.
Dance Through Time, performances and videos on Victorian and other vintage dance
Fashion and Fetishism: Corsets, Tight-Lacing and Other Forms of Body-Sculpture, 2006, David Kunzle. Views Victorian corsets as both confining and rebelious.
The De-Moralization of Society: From Victorian Virtues to Modern Values, by Gertrude Himmelfarb. An iconoclastic, scholarly examination of society, virtues, behavior, and morality before, during, and since the Victorian era.
Richard Francis Burton, translator of the Kama Sutra, and 1001 Arabian Nights
Maud Allan, author of sex manual, inventer of the Dance of Seven Veils
Victoria Woodhull, sexual freedom pioneer
Jane Austen, author
Charlotte Bronte, author
Oscar Wilde, scandalous playwright, (film, 1997) biography (Salome)
Arthur Schnitzler, scandalous playwright (Reigen / La Ronde)
Aubrey Beardsley, scandalous illustrator
Anna Leonowens, English governess to the King of Siam, and author.
James Barry, a woman who lived as a male military surgeon. Also in Elizabeth Longford's Eminent Victorian Women
Beau Brummel, dandy, and inventor of modern male attire
Burlesque, invented by the Victorians
Sherlock Holmes, criminologist
Emily Post's Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics and at Home, 1922
We welcome additional quality references in any of these categories.